(I’m about to get cynical everyone, so prepare yourselves.)
I know what you are thinking… who peed on this girl’s cookies? I promise I’m not all doom and gloom when it comes to love. Hey, I adore being obnoxious and cutesy with all things romantic as much as the next person. But in light of the Valentine’s Day season, I decided that maybe love isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
Now some of you will blame this on the fact that I have not found “the one” yet. This very well may be the case. But the way I look at it, too many girls in their twenties (or older) get obsessed with this idea of being in love and how it will magically make their life a million times better. This is why it sucks.
Let’s start with Valentine’s Day, or as some people call it “Single Awareness Day.” You either love it or you hate it. I personally, find the holiday pointless. If you are in a relationship, you shouldn’t only spoil that person one day a year. You should do cute, romantic gestures to show them how much they mean to you throughout the year. From experience, if a guy is a jerk, a last minute purchase of a rose and a box of chocolates on a day that he is told to buy them is not going to make up for his lack of communication skills. And of course if you are single, well you know how tiresome it is to watch seemingly everyone in the universe swoon over each other.
Next we have romantic “chick-flick” movies. Perfect for a wine night with your closest girl friends. But let’s be honest, we all know that they have given us false hope when it comes to love. No high school guy that I know of is going to write a girl a letter every day for a year and then build her dream house with his bare hands after spending two summer months with her and taking her virginity. However, as females, something tells us that we need that in order to be happy, and that with a little luck, we will find that.
Boys are boys, and men are men. They are human, just like we are. They make mistakes, they say the wrong thing, and sooner or later, they will piss you off, even if they are your soul mate. That is just life. We are only setting ourselves up for disaster by thinking that only the most handsome, perfect prince charming can make our dreams come true.
I’m not saying you should settle, by all means DON’T SETTLE! You should definitely find a guy that is fantastic. Just don’t let your whole world come crashing down the first time he wants to play videogames over going shopping with you.
Lastly, we have our innate basic female instincts that tell our brain to find a mate and have a baby. Seemingly, this is inescapable. But I want to be blunt with you. Finding a guy that will make do and then quickly having a child IS NOT GOING TO FIX YOUR LIFE! I can’t emphasize this enough. I cringe whenever I see those trashy talk shows that bring on the 15 year old that is sleeping with millions of guys trying to get pregnant. As much as biology is telling you it’s time, it’ll only make your life waaaay more complex. At least wait until you are old enough to actually have an income to pay for the baby. While on this topic, I personally have known girls to get pregnant on purpose in hopes of keeping their current boyfriend. Look, if you boyfriend doesn’t want to be with you, guaranteed a baby will make the inevitable breakup worse. Also, why would you want to be tied down to someone who doesn’t want you in the first place anyway?
Love makes people do stupid things. Thus… it sucks.
Now please don’t get me wrong, I am a complete romantic and if a guy wants to come sweep me off my feet, then by all means I won’t stand in his way. But I have just decided that love, or the lack of it will not rule my life. I would like to think that I am much stronger than that and that I can be happy all on my own.
To all my readers in healthy mature relationships, congratulations and hold on to that person. To all my single readers, it is not the end of the world; good love just takes time to find.