I absolutely love being in love. This may come as a surprise to some of you since I have been kind of cynical about Valentine’s Day in two previous posts. But I really do love being in a relationship, and having someone there to be your partner in every adventure.
That being said, I’ll note that I’m only 23 and don’t know everything there is to know about relationships and love. But I’m learning. And so is Mike. And it’s way more fun to be learning with someone else.
But one thing I can tell you that I have learned in my approximately 10 years of dating various people, is that if you stop trying or putting forth effort, the passion will fizzle out for one or both of you, and the relationship will not last. And I don’t mean trying as in always having your hair and makeup done, since your significant other should love you regardless (after all, that’s the real you under all that mascara and hairspray). I mean that you both should take time out of your day to spend together, and to talk to each other, and to just enjoy each other’s company. One of the best ways to do this is to still date your significant other.
Get dressed up, make a fancy reservation, and take your person out for the night. Be proud to be seen with them and show them off. If a fancy restaurant is out of your price range, go for a walk together in a beautiful area, or cook dinner together.
His and Hers coffee 🙂
If you have kids, call the babysitter and go do something you guys used to do together before the kids came along. Making time can seem difficult with everyone running in a million directions, but sometimes it’s just what a relationship needs.
Again, I’m not married, and I don’t have kids, but a lot of 20 year old’s that I know have a hard time distinguishing between going out to a bar and going on a date. A date is not drunkenly dirty dancing at a dimly lit bar with sticky floors. I’m saying, do something where you can actually hang out with each other will few distractions. Mike and I both plan dates for each other, fancy and not fancy, and we both really look forward to them. Even it’s just going to a coffee shop and talking about your day at work or things you’ve had on your mind, it feels good to have someone to open up to, and it only makes the relationship stronger.
We clearly drink lots of coffee…
Mike took me out for our Valentine’s Day dinner last night because we have other plans for the actual day, and while it was a special occasion and fancier than anything we’ve done before, it was a fantastic evening and great break from everyday life. The typical dates we go on usually are to a local coffee shop or bookstore. But since the very beginning of the relationship we’ve made it a priority to try new restaurants around town that neither one of us has been to. It adds a sense of adventure, since we are trying something new, and we get to build our own memories at each place. I highly recommend it.
So go and plan a date with your significant other right now!